Pleasant Surprise....

I have a pile of DVDs scattered on the floor around our entertainment system at home. Last night we picked this one called "88 minutes" to watch after dinner at this random Japanese place. I wasn't particularly in a movie mood or anything after that "sex in the city" trauma, but then I watched cuz this one has Al Pacino in it. Yeah....I admit...I have this thing for old handsome men...lol....

The movie turned to be quite good, at least in my opinion....even though once again I guessed out who was the real criminal like in the 1st 1/3 of the movie. I don't think I am that into violent scenes and sick murders in movies, but I sure like the guessing game. It's the best when a movie can keep me guessing all the way till the end even when it rarely happens. Looking at the movies I really like in my life, it's not hard to tell why I don't belong to the norm of most female viewers. Joelle was telling me that she doesn't watch sex in the city either, and I was certainly happy my friend belongs to the same 5 % as me even though I think she still has more romantic genes in her compared to me.....:p

Anyway....watching an unexpected good movie at a random time is always a cheerful thing. It's like one day you wake up and you are just in a good mood for no reason....ah...I miss those good old days....

Done with it....once and for all

ok....so I patiently finished the movie "sex in the city" with several stops yesterday. I personally thought the movie was super predictable and didn't really know why 95% of female species loved it. However....I did figure out why I am totally not interested in this movie (show), and here are the reasons....

1. Ok...I know I have mentioned this before....but that actress Sarah Parker is just freaking ugly to me...every time I watch some movie by her I just kept on wondering how she came to be an actress in this Hollywood world....maybe she looks so vastly diff. from the other nice looking people?

2. I think I just cannot relate to all the girl bondings in the movie. I have no idea how it would feel like to have whole bunch of girlfriends and tell them your little secrets. 1st of all I think girls are just too much trouble and too noisy to hang around with most of the time....so I would rather hang out with guys. I don't think I can handle more than three girls at a time really....I get bored and I get annoyed...and yeah...I am female....and I don't know how I grew up to be like that...I do have girlfriends, but I usually only hang out with one at a time...guess I don't have those endless energy most girls have when they start talking about shopping, hair, make up, outfits...

3. Yeah the lives of those gals in the movie are just unreal. I think that is exactly why most girls like it. They enjoy imagining how their lives would be if they are exactly like the ones in the movie. Having a great career plus all those pocessions + being attractive to men (which I don't really know how by the looks of those in the movie...but they are designed to be attractive with the characters...)....basically just everything girls want themselves to be. The fact is....if you ARE already everything you want to be....why would you be watching the show anyway? right?

4. The relationships which centered heavily around SEX just annoys me.....Yeah I know sex is a big part in relationships in this country....but is it what we really should be promoting in our society? no wonder the youth is messed up nowadays and marriages are always messed up. It doesn't seem like sex is only "in the city"....it's basically promoted everywhere. Talking about true love...how is it possible to find when sex is the 1st thing that comes to mind? I wonder....

5. Not only the main actress is ugly....the guys are all ugly too....I don't know why people pay money to watch whole bunch of ugly guys? If it's entertainment, then at least we should have things pleasing to the eyes? or at least they have to be excellenet actors to justify for the not so attractive looks? I don't know....the whole thing just seems odd to me....

Ok...I don't think I want to go on and state more points...even this feels like a waste of time. I just want to kinda keep a record for myself to prove I tried to be the 95 % and failed. Yeah I guess love is imp somehow....but I guess I just get annoyed when it's overly discussed....with disgusting imagiries too...but....it's all my personal opinion....the 95 % of the crowd....can still enjoy it....all they want....

Why? somebody tell me why....

I am sitting here watching this movie "Sex and the City" cuz I want to figure out why about 95 % of girls are so into this. The movie came from the TV series which was hot for....like....forever...I think. I have never wanted to watch the thing because the main character is FREAKING UGLY....The only good looking thing about her is how skinny she is I think. Her face is super long with a lot of wrinkles. She has hair that looks messy all the time....and she is ugly even for a western model (just saying that cuz there are many diff. typs of looks for models in the western world).

In short...I just don't get why people love watching whole bunch of women over 40 talk about their love life...I borrowed the DVD just to figure out the mystery....and the DVD was sitting there on the floor for the whole week before I finally got enough urge to put it into the computer. That says how much I DON'T want to watch it...which is funny cuz I am the person who borrowed it right? I guess I do have the spirit of a scientist who needs to figure out the reasons behind things...

I am about 15 min into the movie...not entertained much by the old women. Only one of those 4 look good. I guess that tells us there are a lot of old movie watchers out there. We will all be old someday...oh...and that guy (Mr. Big) which the most ugly girl is about to get married to....looks absolutely gay....lol...I better just stop right here and continue after I am done with the whole movie....someday....

Changes

I was watching this interview with a famous designer from TW. She said "the only unchanging thing in life is that everything is changing." It's amusing how she thinks the same way as I do, and I guess that is why she survives well in the fashion industry for 20 + years....I wonder if all artists crave for new ideas and things....

I was reading this book on tea. I grew up drinking coffee most of the time and I started quite young. I have enjoyed drinking coffee all my life, but then I think I should expand to the tea side since I do drink the Chinese tea that old people drink. It's amazing how tea was valuable at the end of Qing dynasty. I guess the British people really helped spreading the good stuff from China by having their tea time....

Anyway....time to change some stuff in life. It's always good when I finally get tired of things and give myself deadlines.....

Photos from our accidental zoo trip....

Well....some photo updates from last weekend.... Originally we went through all the trouble trying to get free tickets for Bower's museum on Sun, but then failed the whole attempt. There were way too many people lining up just to get in when we got there. We then gave up and got to Billy's office to reboot his work computer. We headed to the zoo afterwards since we really didn't know where to go. Photos turned out to be only ok, but then I guess practicing taking photos of animals can train patience somehow....

I was bored at the parking lot at Billy's work....took this one for no reason....

Billy took the photo of the 1st animal we saw at the zoo...
Doesn't this dear have the alien face somehow?

This little guy was posing for a while....

There were whole bunch of flamingos....To take photos of a single one was a tough task. Billy took the 2nd one..

There were 4 tigers that we saw. Two of them just basically walked and played together all the time...Very sweet...

And this one just gave the best photos out of the 4...handsome big cat...

This hippo was huge....I liked the one in the water....
These are the thinkers of the zoo....deep thoughts...


Big one and small one...

Kiss Kiss...

Chipped ear...this guy was waiting for me to take his pictures for a long time...

Pretending to be cute...

Black and White...best colors?

Kangaroo that pretended to be dead...

It seems like animals from Australia are all lazy cuz the Koala was only awake for like 2 min the whole time we were standing there...

Somehow this was called the dragon....but just a big evil looking lizard...gloomy lighting too...

On the way back to the exit I took these two again....

And....just wanted to prove we indeed went to the zoo and took those photos...lol

Why do you have to discuss on things you know what to do with?

Have you ever wonder why people come to you and tell you that they have a dilemma and they are struggling to make a decision? They tell you they really know what they should do..in fact they have plan and they will probably do that...However.... they say "BUT I am wondering if there is 'something else' I should do cuz of various reasons."

1st of all....if you know what you should do, then it means you know very well what is "supposedly correct". However, you probably want to do something else so then you come up with various reasons to make yourself or whoever you are talking to think there are more options to work around the situation. That....clearly indicates what you really want to do, and yet may not be the best thing to do. So then what can you do now? go ask someone else and see if you can get support! I guess life is easier when others make decisions for you?

So now you wonder again why the person with struggles comes to you and tell you about the dilemma.....I personally think they come in hope for you to tell them "whichever you want to do is fine....or maybe you should forget about what you should do, and just go with the 2nd option....who knows? maybe it's going to create no harm after all...try it..." I am sure when the person hears such answer, he would be overjoyed cuz there is the support he needs.....and that is exactly why he comes to you to "discuss" the options.

1st of all, people who do such things are trying to share the responsibilities....cuz whatever they do at the end, is with your suggestion as a decision making factor....so it's not entirely their responsibility with the actions they take. 2nd of all...they are hoping for luck...they probably know what you would say to start with....and yet hey come to you because you are somehow important in their lives... and what you say do make certain effects in their lives....Thus for them to live in peace with you in the future, they would want you to participate in the decision making.... If you don't object to whatever they want to do,then in the future your "no objection" answer may very well be a good thing to shut off any reaction you can have later on. Convenient, isn't it? Who gets to struggle at the end? I wonder....

I want to know....

The little 8 years old kid that has been starting with me for over a year now is still driving me crazy. She would be looking at some stuff that she knows exactly how to do and then do the completely opposite or the wrong stuff. However....I don't mind teaching this weirdo kid cuz she is actually the person who wants to learn and does not want to give up no matter how bad our lessons get. I have to say she has a strong personality, and that....is exactly my cup of tea...

When I was teaching the kid yesterday, she asked me "so is that website of your group put together yet?". I was like....huh? Did I ever even tell you I have a group? How did you know about the website? Apparently she has been secretly overhearing conversations between her sister and I when I was still trying to teach her sister (yeah with the 100 things her sister was learning...I finally just think it was not worth wasting time and money on the violin really...and thank God her mom agrees so now the older kid is sticking with "composing".....very amusing but I certainly hope she can just go with the normal academics cuz she is smart...hope she won't end up like those stupid composers who think they can be the "Chinese Beethoven"....yeah....smart people reading this would know who I am talking about of course....)

Anyway....imagining an 8 year old trying to peek into your life....it's quite entertaining.....That kinda reminded me how Clement was like when he was little. I remember one time when he was staying with me in the summer (when he was probably still in elementary school but close to junior high I think) he told me "hey you can share your secrets (xin-shi) with me if something bothers you....I was very amused and couldn't help thinking "hum...I wonder how you can help me with the things I am bothered by"....

I guess kids want to grow up fast and be adults....and that is why they want to peek into the adult lives early. When they really grow up....they will eventually realize being a kid and not have to worry about anything is such a blessing...I wonder if that is the case for everyone...or just for us who grow up too fast in their lives?