I knew two people for a few years, and nobody really knew if they were really going out. The guy always said the girl was his GF, and the girl never admitted. The situation remained that way as long as I knew them. They were working closely in a music group at the same time, and everyone watching them from the outside couldn't figure out what exactly was going on. We just thought things would resolve if they hang on long enough.
The guy went back to HK last year and the girl stayed in LA. Last week I got this e card on facebook from the guy with his wedding photos. The wedding is in May, and the bride is not the girl in LA. More interestingly...the LA girl just changed her status to "engaged" on facebook....and I guess it's obvious enough she is not engaged to the same guy either. The speed of how things happened was kinda shocking, at the same time very entertaining as if it's a competition.
The story actually sounds familiar to many. I am sure there are plenty of situations like this...which makes me wonder why people spend so much energy chasing after a certain person... only at the end realizing marrying another person would be much easier? If one likes a person so much to linger around for such a long time, then how would it be so easy to convince oneself to go with another person? Is it because he/she never really liked the 1st person but was afraid to lose face giving up? or is it because the 2nd person that comes alone is the true love thus moving on becomes much easier? Why do people insist on getting stuck in a certain situation when it's not working out? Can't they tell when things are really not moving along the right direction?
Well....not like all my questioning make any difference in life.....Just wondering that is all.....
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In a highly idealized situation, I honestly believe everyone can be anyone's true love. God wouldn't ask us to love other people if this is an absolute impossibility.
Of course in the real world, this is very difficult. We are all uniquely different... and sometimes it's just easier to love this person than that other person for various reasons. Some people are just better matched together... while some are not.
However, true love is really beyond reasoning, it's also about willingness to sacrifice self for other... even if there isn't a good match initially, as time goes on, the two love birds willingly committed to each other should eventually become a good match!
People only break up when they feel like they don't want to sacrifice self to play the "match the other person game" anymore. It's must easier to be love than to love. When it begins to feel too much like a drag... That's when people begin to dump or divorce one another. Of course for the dumpee, no matter how willing he or she is still willing to accomodate that other person... it'd be no use.
Even Almighty God can be dumped and there's nothing He can actively to to win you back. We can divorce God if we really want to. God'd never shove Jesus down our throats... , even God wouldn't be able to maintain a loving relationship with those who are unwilling.
Anyway, I see God wanting us to continue to play this 'love game' on earth for as long as we shall live. He wants us to get good at this game of love. If 2 players who are really good at playing this game..., even if the 2 players are polar opposites, I believe true love can still work out.
If God gives up on us, we'd be doomed.
If we give up on God, we'd also be doomed.
Since God will never give up on us, and if we also won't give up on God, then things will of course eventually work out.
Same goes with 2 people. As long as the 2 players commit to one another and continue to show willingness to work things out, how can such love not be true?
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